Welcome to the Nuptial Nest, aka my blog. I’ve decided to go through all the weddings I’ve ever worked and discuss a lesson I’ve learned from each of those weddings – be it a life lesson, a lesson about how to be a better wedding planner, or a lesson to future clients. No topic is off limits – let’s get into the dirty details of weddings! *no brides were harmed in the creation of this blog*
Nuptial Nest Lesson 4: Support the Client, Always in All Ways
So many clients have a beautiful dream of having a big wedding, which I completely understand! I’m the same way – I love a good, huge party. One thing that a client might not be aware of when doing a large wedding like this is how stressful hosting 300+ people can really be.
I worked my first huge wedding several years ago, totaling at 350 people. It was certainly shocking as I’ve never worked a wedding that large by myself previously, but something I was excited to undertake. The bride and groom were phenomenal, and their bridal party (totaling 43 people) were all too excited to help their friends pull of a spectacular wedding.
After a start time of 4am for hair and makeup (necessary when there are 20 bridesmaids to get done up), speaking with almost all 350 people during cocktail hour, and getting accosted every 10-15 seconds by a new person wanting a selfie, professional photo, or giving her an envelope, the beautiful bride had just about had enough and needed. a. minute.
So, we took a minute (meaning about 10), drank a couple bottles of water, breathed, and unzipped her dress so she could get more air. In these instances, I find it best to really just support the bride and be her absolute best friend on the planet. Let her vent, let her cry, let her drink, and let her feel utterly and unequivocally supported. I get it – I’ve been there before, feeling overwhelmed, excited, anxious, happy, and every other emotion all at once. When this happens, a calm demeanor and gentle reassurance work wonders.
Lesson learned: Put yourself in the client’s shoes and be who you would need in that moment. Most of the time, it’s a best friend – someone who listens, is non-judgmental, and wants to help. It’s not hard – just takes some true, honest empathy.