Nuptial Nest Lesson 9 – Blame the Planner
Welcome to the Nuptial Nest, aka my blog. I’ve decided to go through all the weddings I’ve ever worked and discuss a lesson I’ve learned from each of those weddings – be it a life lesson, a lesson about how to be a better wedding planner, or a lesson to future clients. No topic is off limits – let’s get into the dirty details of weddings! *no brides were harmed in the creation of this blog*
My clients are always the most kind, sweet, albeit a bit stressed, people to work with. It is incredibly natural. The amount of pressure put onto couples to host a fun yet intimate, memorable yet inviting, inclusive yet personalized, event is staggering. Even more stressed – the parents of the couple.
Parents are always trying their best to make sure that the day goes off without a hitch for their children, which is incredibly admirable. However, on more than one occasion, it has interfered with my clients’ ability to let go and enjoy their day. I have found myself in between parents and clients more times than I can count!
One thing to keep in mind is that everyone is simply working towards the best possible outcome – a beautiful day, with all the pieces put in order. When there is tension between clients and parents, I will always, always tell my clients “I will happily be the middle-man, put the blame on me, all good” to make sure that my clients (and the parents) are happy at the end of the day.
Lesson Learned – Let’s give ourselves grace, and let’s give grace to our family members, during the entire wedding planning process and the wedding day itself. Emotions are high, tension might be palpable, but at the end of the day, the memories are full of love and joy. Giving ourselves, and each other, space, grace, and love is the way to do this. And maybe use the planner as a (willing) scapegoat.