Nuptial Nest Lesson 11 – Rules Are Made to be Broken
Welcome to the Nuptial Nest, aka my blog. I’ve decided to go through all the weddings I’ve ever worked and discuss a lesson I’ve learned from each of those weddings – be it a life lesson, a lesson about how to be a better wedding planner, or a lesson to future clients. No topic is off limits – let’s get into the dirty details of weddings! *no brides were harmed in the creation of this blog*
As someone who is incredibly Type A, was a goody-two-shoes in her youth (the rebellious years didn’t actually begin until my mid-20s), and loves to follow rule and routines, breaking rules isn’t on my top list of things to do during a wedding. Sometimes, however, life requires rebellion.
I was working at a venue where the load-in and prep rules were… let’s say… restrictive. It was a venue open the public which presented some logistical hurdles. Normally, venues will allot you a certain number of hours for load-in and décor. This venue…. Allotted 60 minutes. For EVERYTHING. Ceremony, cocktail hour, all catering, DJ, florist, tables, chairs, tablecloths, seating charts, lanterns, OH MY. In a regular venue, 3+ hours is typical.
So what did we do? Well, I took it upon myself to break every single rule and personally started setting up ceremony seating almost 2 hours before I was allowed to, putting the seating chart out into the entrance room (with the general public still lingering around), and lighting candles within full view of the public. If there weren’t human bodies in the way, I also would have started to set up tables and chairs and thrown tablecloths around. Alas, I was discouraged from trampling over people. Apparently, that’s not the “kind” thing to do.
When clients enlist my services, they know that they’re getting the full version of a “get-it-done tornado” – I do not care about venue rules, vendor rules, or anyone else. If a venue doesn’t allow external alcohol and my client wants a certain item, I will smuggle it into my bag personally. If a client wants something that’s outside of the realm of possibility according to a certain vendor, I will go out of my way to make it happen. If the venue doesn’t allow sparklers, I will create a human shield around the item that my client wants a photo with so the photographers can work their magic. And if a venue has absurd rules about load-in, I will break them. Happily.
Lesson learned: The client is always right, and rules are meant to be broken.